Put Your Body Into It! Body Flirting Part Two - Advanced moves for the expert flirt...
We’ve shown you how to catch a guy’s attention with Eye Flirting. We’ve given you some basic moves to get him honed in on your location. But, let’s hook this guy and reel him in with bold flirting techniques! Ready for some advanced moves? Here’s the Second Installment in our Body Flirting Series...
In our last Blog, we learned some Body Flirting Basics and how to signal your interest using your eyes, lips and hair. In this next section, we will learn how to flirt using your whole body and yes, every body part can be used to signal your romantic intentions!
Let’s have a look...
Try These Moves:
The Slow Stroke to Heaven
Stroking the neck is so effective because it is one of the most sensitive and erogenous zones on the human body. Touching it will attract a man's attention. Why does this work? Apparently, men are attracted to soft smooth female skin and the neck is the most socially acceptable area to display. Smooth skin is also a reliable indicator of both youth and health - critical factors when a male is "hunting" a mate.
OUR SECRET TIP? Clear skin is such an important indicator of health.Men love skin – especially if it is smooth and unblemished. In their testosterone driven minds the equation is simple: Skin equals availability.If you have breakouts, skin discoloration, scars or uneven skin tone, a Facial Peel or Micro Dermabrasion can remove unwanted brown spots and can rejuvenate the skin so all they see is your beautiful face!
Whenever I’m around you, I Touch Myself
Self-Touching: that means stroking or petting your own body in a venue-appropriate way. We don’t mean go to town on yourself. This move should be subtle, but deliberate. Draw a man's attention to your ‘best assets’, whether it’s your thighs, neck or ankles. Essentially, what this gesture means is: "I'm stroking and touching myself because I'd really like to be stroked and touched by you".
Fondling an Object
Psychologists believe that people often transfer inner feelings to external objects. So by stroking the stem of your wine glass for instance, a woman is using body language to say "stroke me". By running her a pen across her lips she is saying "kiss me". Wine glasses, table ornaments, sun glasses and pens are common objects used for "toying". Remember: Slow and sensual is good. Fast and ‘jerky’ is bad because it can often be confused with gestures of agitation or boredom.
Let the Other Shoe Slip
Last of all, get your feet in the game! Showcase those sexy heels and let one shoe slip, letting it dangle daintily from your foot. This sends a strong but subtle message: that you’re relaxed, comfortable and may be willing to undress further... And men find a move like that oddly compelling. Strange as it is, many men find the female foot extremely sensual, and for some, it is an all-consuming fetish.
You’ve got a few tricks to add to your flirting tool kit. Here are some bolder techniques that are sure to get your message across:
The Penthouse Model Pose
Arch your back to emphasise your bottom and also your flexibility, which signals youth. Push your breasts forward and play with your long hair. Pretend you’re a centerfold model posing for the camera. Make your gestures big and dramatic. Take Note: These moves are an exaggeration of normal body signals and are best used when the male target is some distance away or when you have no doubt about your intentions. Use this technique at large gatherings or in public spaces like a beach where simple "quieter" signals are often unnoticed.
Frame your Lady Parts- or The 'Womb Gesture'
This move is pretty direct because, essentially, it draws attention to your crotch. It’s like placing your hands on your hips, but instead you place them a little lower, on either side of your pelvis. This is a powerful “turn-on” for some men because, basically, you’re framing your Vagina. Although sometimes mistaken for "male" gesture, this move actually ‘spells out’ what's on your mind. What you’re saying is: “This is the part of me that I want you to notice. I'm telling you that this area of my body is available for the right man!” It is a confident signal indicating aggressive sexual availability.
OUR SECRET TIP? This is a very bold move. Remember ladies: If you're going call attention to your private parts, especially if you plan on taking someone home, make sure that you 'areas' are well-groomed. You don't want to draw a man in and then send him running when you unveil a sprawling, wayward bush! Consider booking a Brazilian Wax for a smooth, hairless area. Or, if you're a bit more conservative, book a leg wax or laser hair removal for beautiful, baby-smooth legs that will keep him coming back for more!
How Many Licks Does it Take?
The Lip-Lick: This move is pure dynamite because we usually lick our lips for two reasons: they're either dry or you’re sexually interested. Place your tongue at the corner of your mouth and then sensually lick your upper lip from one side to the other. If you’re already doing this subconsciously, then good for you! If you haven’t already, give it a try. It sends the message that you’re very interested and it’s an obvious sign that even the dimmest bulbs can’t miss!
Shake that Ass, Show Him what you’re working with!
Ah, the female bottom…Amongst primates and humans, it holds a fierce attraction for males. Look at stars like Nicki Minaj and JLo and you get the clear message that ‘Booty is In’! In fact, buttock augmentation is rapidly becoming one of the most common cosmetic surgeries, particularly in countries like Brazil, where a curvy bottom is considered a woman's sexiest attribute. Turn around often, if you have something worth showing, or draw his eye to your “assets” with a killer dress that hugs your curves. To really knock him dead? Place one hand on your hip and pull the fabric of your dress taught across your cheeks. Then, turn half away, so that the man can appreciate the shape and beauty of your bottom. You can also place one hand on your stomach to make it less obvious that you’re arching your back to make your bottom more prominent!
OUR SECRET TIP? Nothing emphasises a beautiful booty like a nice flat stomach and flattering curves in all the right places. Use a body slimmer to tuck in that belly or smooth those cellulite bulges on your thighs. Even better, try our Inch Loss Body Wrap and lose up to 6 inches on your waist! A tinier waist means more focus on your bum!
Some Final Tips?
Practice in front of a mirror or with the help of a supportive friend. You'll see that as you become more fluent in your flirting and sexual attraction body language, your confidence in yourself also increases.If you’re not there yet, keep practising. Just as it takes effort and practice to be fluent in any language, you need practice to become fluent in body language.
But what flirting move is the best one to use?
Research has shown that touching is the best way to earn a man’s undivided attention. But, that’s the subject of another article… We can’t give away all our secrets at once!
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